
Fitting in
Kriti
Kriti arrived in Hong Kong in September 2017, following her husband’s banking job relocation. Back in India, she had been a university professor, and she carried that professional confidence with her. “I was pretty sure I could figure it out in Hong Kong as well. I didn’t really worry because I had university teaching experience,” she recalls.
But the reality was harsher than expected. “Moving to a place and coming as a tourist are two different things… especially if you’re a brown person.” Within weeks, her sense of assurance unravelled. “All that confidence went to shit when I came here… The first month of September was horrible. I was like existential identity.”
The structural barriers were immediate. In Hong Kong, teaching requires a registration certificate, meaning she had to retrain despite years of experience. As she pursued work as a NET (Native English Teacher), she found herself at the lowest rung of the hierarchy. “I was the only brown girl… you have to work twice as hard to feel half as good.”The isolation was crushing. “When I was going through all those experiences in Hong Kong when I initially arrived, I was looking for some book like this which could validate my struggle, which could give me some hope… and I could not find anything.” Yet instead of silencing her, the struggle-built resilience.She turned to writing. “I always wanted to share my experiences and stories, but then I realized that no one’s going to give you the mic, you’ve got to pick your mic and tell your story.” That realization became her turning point. She began authoring her own work, recently publishing a book to help others by sharing her journey.
Kriti often describes herself as a "misfit", a teacher who wears her tattoos openly, a woman childfree by choice, someone who doesn’t cook in a culture where women are expected to; A NET teacher in Hong Kong, where schools "prefer Caucasians", and a "brown" expat navigating spaces dominated by whiteness. For Kriti, being a misfit is no longer a burden but a badge. It reframes her struggles, giving her a voice and a lens through which she redefines her life.
Soo
Soo arrived in Hong Kong in 2020 with her husband and two children, bringing a life already shaped by experiences across the world. Before settling here, she had already joined exchange programmes in the United States, worked in China and Italy, completed a master’s degree in the United Kingdom, and lived in Singapore for five years.
She has always possessed a strong curiosity about other cultures. That same curiosity, however, often leaves her feeling suspended in the middle—never fully belonging anywhere. She knows she does not belong to the local culture in Hong Kong, even when she tries.
Living inside an expatriate bubble, she notes, is very different from her past experience. Language and cultural barriers remain. Sometimes she finds the local diet, decision-making styles, and ways of thinking difficult to grasp. The distance is real, and the barriers are not easily overcome.
Yet, as an observer, she continues to engage with local people. Her greatest concern is that her children might become too settled in an expatriate bubble. Expats in Hong Kong are almost immediately perceived as outsiders.
Preeti
Preeti moved from Mumbai to Hong Kong in 2010 to work in banking. After several years, she was transferred to the U.S. within the same bank. By 2018, she had gained enough experience, ambition, and confidence to leave the salaried employment and become an entrepreneur. To do that, she returned to Hong Kong, this time on an investment visa.
Preeti’s footprints are all around the global cities such as Mumbai, Chicago, San Francisco, and Hong Kong. This trajectory exposed her to diverse cultures and perspectives. It also shaped the way she thinks about belonging:
“I’ve always had a circle of friends who are pretty international... I feel there is no point in moving out [of your country] if you’re still kind of sticking to the same group.” Integrating is a way to experience a new place. “If you move to a place with the mindset that you’re not fitting in culturally, then you’ll never fit in culturally.” She adds: “I think I’ve never ever had that challenge, not even in Hong Kong. People talk about racism in Hong Kong and all that, but I have never faced that.”
Through all her encounters, she highlights how comfortable she felt here, “I have actually quite enjoyed my time in Hong Kong. I’ve had friends from diverse cultures, and culturally I have zero issues if you ask me.” “I started to fit in from day one.” Compared to the U.S. where she both studied and worked, she “found Hong Kong much more efficient, infrastructure to be better... The overall system in Hong Kong worked perfectly...,” for example with simple things like getting a HKID card in five days instead of the stated seven.
Preeti’s story illustrates the welcoming side of Hong Kong, showing that for some expatriates, relocation is smooth and positive. Her journey reminds us that Hong Kong is not a city with closed doors, but a place where people from diverse backgrounds fit in and call it home.
